Hello everyone,
Just wanna keep updating you all on Chris aka Two_of_Six. I finally had a chance to talk to him this week. He's doing as well as can be expected considering what he just went through. He doesn't remember much at all. He has to be told repeatedly who is who and what is what. He was discharged from the hospital on April 5th. He isn't happy that he has a pacemaker but happy to be out of the hospital. I had been asked to help jog his memory and it was so hard the first time I tried. I cried for what it seemed like forever! I'll get into that in a bit.
Christopher's left arm I believe it is, is immobile and he will need physical therapy for that. He isn't able to walk on his own just yet. His husband and father help him get around. He was given crutches to move about, but because his one arm isn't moving at all, he isn't able to use the crutches at all. He told me he still sleeps a lot. We did a Q&A game with each other. This is where my heartbreak began.
When I asked him if he knew me, he wasn't sure but he thought I was a nice person. As time went on, he kinda remembered me but only remembered being friends for years. He had no idea that I was his fiancee sometime ago. Something sparked in his head and he remembered calling me a nickname that no one knows about. It made me happy that he suddenly remembered that, but he still had no idea why he used to call me that. He asked me to tell him and I didn't know what to do. I didn't wanna tell him who I was to him a long time ago. I was chatting to his uncle who is a doctor and I asked him what to do.
He told me to go ahead and tell him the truth, but I knew that would upset him. Still, I went ahead and told him the truth cause there was really no other way around it. So, when I told him who I was, he got upset and started to flip out. He kept saying, "I wanna go home now" over and over. They were still in Ireland at the time and I didn't want him going back to England the same day he got discharged from the hospital. I thought it would be too risky for him and too long of a trip to take too soon. Luckily, they listened to me and didn't go home that day. So, he ended up in a seizure after that.
I got upset and his husband was talking to me while his dad was helping Chris. He kept telling me that it wasn't my fault and to calm down. I was already upset before cause it was heartbreaking to me that he couldn't remember me at first. After he was ok from the seizure, we kept chatting and he wanted me to ask him questions so I did. Tonight, we worked some more on jogging his memory. I showed him pictures of friends we have in common and he only recognized 2 people but that's a start. We also did numbers 1-10, I had him tell me the order they go 1,2,3. You get the idea! I also had him spell out the numbers. It took him 3 tries to get it right which isn't too bad.
Helping him to get back to normal is gonna take sometime but I am not giving up on him. It breaks my heart each time we chat, but together we will get through this. He is like a little boy learning things all over again. I am not really someone to have patience, but this is too important to me and I will be patient with him. I've always been there for Chris through good times and bad. I am hoping he will never remember the bad things between us. Who knows? Right now, it feels like we went back to 2003 when we first met and fell in love. We like each other all over again but differently this time around. After all he is married to someone else. We can't get back what we once had.
Anyway, the point is, he is doing well. He is able to recognize some things like his dogs and books. I had to tell him where he was from cause he couldn't remember that. He even remembered stuff about my family. I think Chris will be back to himself in a short time. Specially when I am doing all I can to make him remember all that he can. I am not pushing him too much of course, even though he insists that I do that. Still, I will not make him do too much as it is too soon. So, this is it! If anything else happens I will let you all know. Thank you for your prayers and for reading this!
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